On February 14, 2009, our company, Blueprint for Love Wedding Planning, was finally launched. Since then, many friends have sent their greetings and blessings. Some of them asked why a young man gets involved in wedding planning. Most of the time, I replied in a simple statement, “because I really enjoy planning wedding and coordinating the day of the wedding.” Of course, there are more reasons why I want to be a wedding planner.
During this time, we start to have potential clients approaching us and asking about our services. Yesterday, I was talking to a co-worker who will get married in September this year. I casually asked her how the wedding planning had been going. She showed a face of stress and nervousness. Then, she started to share with me about floral arrangement ideas, decors, and her wedding dress. My wedding planning mode started to kick in and asked all these questions, “is it A-line? Is there a train? Chapel train? Is it strapless? Sweatheart?” on and on about her dress and her wedding details. All of a sudden, I bursted out laughter in front of her because I realized how much I have learnt about dresses and the artistic elements of the wedding in the past few months. She was also surprised about the details of the questions I asked. Why would a guy know about all these “girly” terms?
What I found interesting about that conversation was my coworker has not thought about how to make her fiance stand out in the wedding party, and be the center of attention with her on their wedding day. This is quite a common perception and practice in couples’ wedding planning process. The groom may not have a strong idea about what he wants for the wedding, and the bride may need to coordinate all the planning and details. Although often in time he is not acting as ecstatic or enthusastic about the wedding planning as her due to its meticulous details, he is still nervous and excited about his big day. He wants to see his princess or goddess walking down the aisle and to be with his chosen one forever in love. Therefore, it is important to take ideas from both the bride and the groom.
I cannot agree more with our business tag line, “Your authentic love. Our creative passion. The most memorable Blueprint for Love.” As a male wedding planner, parts of my roles are to understand the groom’s mentality, to bring his ideas into the wedding plan; and, most importantly, to bring the strong presence of the groom on the wedding day. All these things can accentuate the authenticity of their love story so that their wedding can be the most unique and memorable Blueprint for Love.
